Nigerian musician and songwriter Joeboy has emphasized that he finds it difficult to forgive anyone that hurt him.
Joeboy: “It takes me a long time to forgive people who have hurt me.” The singer recently made a guest appearance on the Zero Conditions Podcast, where he discussed his career trajectory and musical preferences.
He mentioned how difficult it is to forgive those who have wounded him when the subject of “forgive and forget” was raised.
This, according to Joeboy, is a result of his efforts to treat others fairly. He emphasized that when others injure him in ways he wouldn’t do to them, he takes it personally.
I can’t lie, it’s difficult for me to forgive and forget. I apologize, but I’m making an effort. I am capable of harboring resentment because I value doing things correctly in interpersonal interactions. Therefore, I take it personally when someone behaves oddly around me since I wouldn’t do that to you, so why are you doing it to me? Because of this, I take it personally.
He continued by saying that he would prefer not to have the perpetrator in his space when he is able to let the past be the past. This is due to the fact that he does not cut people off right away; instead, he waits until they have exhausted all of their opportunities before cutting them off.
“I might even forgive but it would take a while though, but I’d forgive, It’d be very difficult to give the person access again,” he said.
The performer also mentioned his greatest learning about forgiveness by remembering some guidance a buddy provided him. He has discovered that lowering one’s expectations of other people may be really beneficial.
Here is the whole episode: